Former Heroin Addict

As an active heroin addict the shame blame game was a great way to defend your choices and actions.

In reality the only thing shame and blame helped was to continue on addiction road. I was finding something outside of me to put the shame and blame on.

As a former heroin addict I find my self indulging in the shame blame game today. It is a very dangerous road to ride on. I believe many know that road as I do.

The shame game, is played more often than you may know.

I believe most have something in their lives they are ashamed of. No matter what it may be or how others judge it, it's the individual alone that is the final judge.

So often we find ways to cope with this emotion. We might be ashamed of our car for instance. So we often push that back through jokes about the car, or find problems with others cars. This simple game can really get ugly.

The blame game, same as the shame game, most of us have played it.

I had a buddy that was great at this and we didn't have a clue till later in life. Whenever this boy got caught, lets say ringing door bells, then hiding to tease the neighbors. If he got caught, he would tell all of us to come out, because "WE," were caught. So it must have made him feel better to let the neighbor know there was more than one to blame.

Before I was tagged with the title heroin addict.I was an alcoholic, and drug addict. Before that I believe most who knew me as a child, thought I was just another kid.

Well I was just another kid, but due to my lying which was not actually lying to me, but a way to make myself look better.

Looking back I see how it affected my thought pattern. My choices were not clear to me. Now after years of hindsight I see the picture clearer.

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All I knew is I had lots of friends
and was doing what young people do.

I did know I got through life quite well cause this game kept my parents and guardians in check. I am sure today they knew more than they had lead on to know. They loved me and I didn't do nothing all that bad yet.

I hated drugs, alcohol, and smokes. I didn't know much about it except, I was never going to do it.

I never heard of a heroin addict, much less a former heroin addict. That stuff did not exist in my life or the neighborhoods life.

The shame blame game was a big part of my person. It became part of me and how I dealt with poor choices. You get better at this game, you begin to find an excuse out side of you for most everything.

Refer to my decision point page to help you help your child

I believe we must not overlook mistakes kids make.

If you believe they didn't understand don't just let it go, no matter how small. Let them know they did wrong. We must give kids some type of accountability as they mature. The parents or guardian will not always be at their side.

Some say I am a former heroin addict. A title some use to describe me. Many get labeled, mom, dad, slime, fatty, and so on. That is not what I am but I gave others reasons to use that phrase to describe me. Maybe one day they will use just Tim to refer to me.

I have no control what people say about me and I do not worry about it as I once did.

Sometimes when we make some changes in our lives we expect the same changes to take place in the minds of others. I am concerned about respecting me, it is the changes in me that are important.

Believe me I am not proud of my past.

I am grateful to be here, alive, and fairly healthy. Another way I look at being called a heroin or a former heroin addict is, if I have a problem with it then I truly do have a problem. We don't need to take things to personally. Maybe it will lead back to the problem itself.

How many times have I blamed others for my actions. No way I can count them. Still do it today. I catch myself now and then. Does this ring a bell; "If She; If He; If They; But She; But He; My life would be if; The only reason I drink is; You never did this that is why; I would not have this problem if you; The only reason I do drugs is because;" You get the point. I was saying someone else was responsible for my actions.

Mental development is in full bloom in the young years of life. I am developing now what I should have been developing forty plus years back. Please check out my mental development page for more info Click Here

Being a former heroin addict
I cross paths with old associates.

I am a friendly guy and I normally strike up a conversation with the people I once cling to. Some are still using, even the ones who are not using are hung up on the shame blame game. I have tried to open their minds, but my words seem to just blow with the wind. They do not look at me as a former heroin addict, they look at me as they once knew me.

You get no where putting blame where it does not belong. It is the blame you accept that gives you hope. Accept yourself for who you are. There is only one you. There were none before and will not be one after, Respect That.

As I stated earlier I still play, but now I often catch myself and open my mind. Most of them, if not all started this shame blame biz as young children.

It is part of you, you must dig deep to uncover it. Parents, it seems so harmless for children to behave this way. Don't let that shame blame seed be planted in your child and grow. Make your children accountable they will love, respect, and honor you.

Be like you want your child to be, they absorb everything you do.

Help them understand that drugs and alcohol disguise themselves in attractive manners. By the time one removes the mask of this beast, addiction may be well in hand.

Drug and alcohol abuse or addiction is a nasty wound of the world that we must heal one child at a time

Being a former heroin addict, looking back I see that disguise clearly. When a child is not prepared or educated in depth of drugs and alcohols approach they are easy prey.

There are millions of active drug addicts and alcoholics today that have messed up many years of their lives.

They were children like yours. Most their hopes are more drugs and alcohol. Sure they have dreams, they talk about getting away from their drug. They talk about their plans after drugs, and how they are going to do it.

They truly believe what they are saying is true. But they cannot bring their drugs with them, for the drugs are their life. They do not understand that just stopping drugs is only the first tiny step.

The odds stack against you once you become a drug addict or alcoholic

This must be dealt with before the child is faced with that possible choice, to do or not to do drugs or alcohol.

As a former heroin addict, I know for many it gets tougher after that first time.

It does not have to be heroin. Heroin is just another drug like alcohol. You may think they are totally different, they take you to the same place. It is a horrible place to be.

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